ruby new born......
OK, I have pinched the name for my blog post title this week but it’s so true – birthing and the birth experience as a whole matters so much.
While our focus is naturally always on the importance of delivering a healthy baby –how ever they make their appearance – a negative or positive birth experience has a very significant impact on the mother’s recovery, both mentally and physically as well as potentially impacting on breast-feeding success and her likelihood of suffering post-natal depression.
This is all very much in my thoughts today. This time exactly 3 years ago (6am 26 September!) I was in my kitchen with my mum and my little (female) cat. Contractions had started in the early hours and I had lay there alone, in and out of sleep, nervous but deliciously excited that my baby was on her way and by herself as I had been booked in for a C-section the next day! Having had an emergency C-section with my 1st born, they had put strict limitations on the time I was allowed to go overdue. I knew a 3rd child was unlikely so this was my last chance at a ‘natural’ birth.
George, then aged 3 and daddy were both still asleep. Mum gently hovered around making tea and herself busy and my little cat stayed close, seemingly very in tune with what was going on as dawn broke and the contractions became closer and stronger.
10 hours later my little girl was born in water at Worthing hospital, I cut the cord and while I would never claim labour is easy, the high I felt having birthed her myself was unparalleled. (I should add at this point I was very much assisted by my lovely Doula Samsara, with my husband by my side).
Ruby wasn’t a little thing either, over 10 lbs as you can see by the snaps!
This was an enormously empowering, positive and connecting experience and one which will never leave me – especially as George’s birth, by emergency c-section had been so different. I was very well looked after, the decision was undoubtably right – he was so stuck we both would have died a few centuries
before – but along with the happiness of seeing him was disappointment. The final delivery had been such a passive experience. I almost felt as though I hadn’t ‘earned’ him – even though we had been in labour for 20+ hours.
That’s why I am so delighted we have such an amazing range of birth supporters and practioners coming to BabyExpo once again this time. For the 3rd year in a row we are supported by the National Childbirth Trust who will be found in the West Hall with information on all the NCT does to support new and expectant parents. There will also be ante-natal teachers and breast-feeding counsellors onsite on the day and the opportunity to sign up to classes.
Expert teams of midwives will be present on the Western Sussex Hospitals NHS Trust stand where visitors can enjoy a series of mini-seminars from their stand, from pre-conception to infant feeding. The team from Brighton & Sussex University Hospitals NHS Trust will be offering expert advice and showcasing some of their innovative birth support products and Crowborough Birthing Centre will be present, offering information on a different birth experience environment and advice on the options.
As part of the JUNO Natural Parenting Zone, the Sussex Doulas along with DoulaCare (Certified Placenta Encapsulation Specialist) will be supporting and promoting natural and positive birth, positive parenting and natural post-birth healing and will be available all day for advice and support and information on how a doula can enrich your birth experience.
Also not to missed is ‘Parentskool’ on stand 141 who offer unique baby preparation courses to be embarked upon at any point in your pregnancy. Don’t miss their amazing on the day competition with fabulous prizes – see here for more! http://www.parentskool.co.uk/brightonbabyexpo.htm
We are really delighted to be welcoming Dean Beaumont, founder of Daddynatal and the UK’s only qualified male ante-natal teacher. Dean admits “I felt I was prepared for the birth of my son, had read the books and been to the classes, but after the birth…..I realised I had not been prepared, and felt I had let my partner down…childbirth education is tailored to women, and actually there was very little information for men as they prepare for their role in birth and beyond. The birth partner has a massive influence on labour, and can affect how long it lasts, how painful it is, and whether interventions are needed.”
So Dean launched the unique Daddynatal and new dads and dads-to-be should NOT miss him on the main stage on the day.
We are also hoping to welcome representatives from the producers of The One World Birth film – Alto Productions and maybe show some of their work – I was priviledged to meet these 2 amazing filmmakers a couple of years ago and (as they know) their films always reduce me to tears! Anyone interested in birth or the future of our planet should click NOW on this link http://www.oneworldbirth.net and prepare to be amazed!
3 years later!